But WHY?

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Although Surrogacy has made itself well known or, dare I say it, popular, I feel that the general population wonder what motivates women to become surrogate mothers or gestational carriers. It is understood that infertile couples or singles will explore all their options, surrogacy contained, but why on earth would a perfectly healthy girl want to go through a pregnancy, labor and delivery for mere strangers? (which happens in the majority of those cases.)
The first conclusion usually is money. I would like to dispel that myth right away. A first-time carrier with her own health insurance may qualify for compensation/reimbursements between $30,000 and $35,000. It’s illegal to’sell’ a baby, or your body for that matter, so why is money involved at all? This compensation is to be utilized while the surrogate is pregnant with a child to support her throughout the pregnancy. She can use it for anything she likes but it’s allowed for food, insurance, local transportation, and basic living expenses. Other’benefits’ recorded in a contract might be clothing, child care, out of state travel, home keeping and invasive procedures. Often it takes months before a surrogate becomes pregnant and even then it may take 2 or 3 IVF treatments. Any compensation is minimal. She quickly finds that she could earn more money working in a fast food restaurant for minimum wage!
Perhaps attention is the motivator? Some women enjoy being the center of attention while pregnant and as a surrogate, attention is a huge part of the journey! Not only is her own family focused on her but her IP’s and their family are all in the film… waiting for the big day to arrive. It is a heady feeling and maybe one of the many reasons why some women become surrogates more then once.
Is it that she actually enjoys being pregnant? A woman who is raising her own kids might have LOVED being pregnant yet, as much as she loves her own kids, economically it’s just not possible to raise a dozen or more babies… so combined with assisting another couple she can enjoy the experience of being pregnant again.
Maybe the reward in being a surrogate is helping another family enjoy what she has, babies… a new creation… a branch on the family tree.
Honestly, I think it’s a mixture of all of the above. Having the ability to help another family and appreciating all of the gratitude and rewards that come with that is a wonderful feeling… one which stays with you for the rest of your life especially if the connection lives up to everything you dreamed it ought to be. Knowing that, as a surrogate, there’s a little life out there making some very particular people happy is a wonderful feeling. A heady experience that, often times, makes a woman willing to carry for someone else again… and again!

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